Australian PhD candidate and sessional academic. Interests include: women's liberation, green living, women's health, babies and mothering.

I want a normal job with clear deadlines, co-workers, and a tea room. Where I’m actually earning paid maternity leave and get a supermarket-bought cake on my birthday.

I’m tired of waking up and walking a few feet to a chair where I have to force myself, while in complete isolation, to do repetitive research that seems to have an arbitrary deadline.

regarding the post you just blogged: i completely agree! i do have one thought in my mind, when i begin to think about everything being male-standardized: isn't a big part of it that women have been given a much lower standard--one based on being ornamental and not as physically or mentally capable as men--because women are seen as lesser beings? but now, as society realizes that yes, women are just as capable as men, their standards are not purely aesthetic based? do you have any thoughts?
friedarose friedarose Said:

I agree that society is realising women are ‘just as capable as men’ in the sense that we can do most of the things men designed to suit their own lives. But when will society demand that men be just as capable as women? When will it be the norm for a man to take time off to care for his baby and then work a decade part-time while the kids are little so his wife can succeed in her chosen vocation? 

Women are being pulled into the male/capitalist culture of long work hours and competing for promotions, but guys aren’t exactly being pulled in droves into caring responsibilities. Not in Australia. The incentives have to be there, and they’re just not. We need a softening of masculine stereotypes, generous ‘use it or lose it’ paternity leave, shorter work weeks, affordable and accessible community based childcare, and the integration of workplaces and children so that men (and childless people) experience what it’s like to be around children more.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
How old is John, Frieda? :)
friedarose friedarose Said:

He’s 28

Asker emiliakc Asks:
Hi Frieda, What is your opinion on the traditions of "bucks night", especially in the way of a party of men coming together to "celebrate" their last night of "freedom" by hiring female strippers to perform for the night ? I'm just trying to grasp how I really feel about the matter myself with my partner becoming a best man. Tbh though it's not his night it makes me feel sick and I'm just trying to reach some sort of understanding within myself about it, but am conflicted. Help ?
friedarose friedarose Said:

If your boyfriend is the best man isn’t the ‘bucks night’ largely up to him? Archaic traditions like this stay alive because all these manly men are too cowardly to have a simple conversation with their groom friend that goes something like: “isn’t it kind of fucked up that we’re going to have to pay women to take their clothes off in front of us?? and besides you’re just about to commit your life to a woman you love and this is deeply disrespectful to her.” 

Instead guys just want to wash their hands of the whole affair. If you’re the groom it was the best man’s fault, he organised it, you just went along for the ride. If you’re the best man you’re just doing what the groom wanted! It would be such a relief to see a guy take some ownership for once and stand up for women.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
What are your thoughts on Third-wave feminism?
friedarose friedarose Said:

I have a bit of a problem with wave theory. It seems pretty ageist to me. It assumes second wave feminist ideas had to be pushed aside for a new ‘better’ school of thought. Feminism is too obsessed with the lives of young women. My mum and her generation were (and still are) ‘second wave feminists’ and they’re not irrelevant.

BUT I like how third wave feminism has built on intersectionality theory. Radical feminists of the second wave posited that a person’s sex was the key determinant of their social status, but intersectional theorists have pointed out that race, class, sexuality, education, etc. complicate things. 

My big problem with third wave feminism is its belief that power derives from feelings, not from a material reality. I think this attitude is really harmful and we’ll be recovering from the damage it has done for a long time. For example ‘feeling’ empowered by sexual objectification. I think this attitude is indicative of the era in which third wave feminism emerged, during the neoliberal revolution. Examining how structural factors like socioeconomic status determine the decisions people make became uncool, and it was suddenly all about the power of the individual to determine their own destiny irrespective of everything else. This new theory of power has a lot of similarities to the capitalist ‘positive thinking’ movement in my opinion. Like… don’t critically analyse your circumstances, don’t politicise them, just reframe literally everything as positive and empowering and it will all be ok. That way of thinking is such a gift to white supremacist capitalist patriarchy.

”i paint myself because i am so often alone”

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themarsresolution:

You Always Know The DJ by Allday.

This is so not my preferred genre, but I’m obsessed with this song right now. He sounds so genuinely Australian! No phony American accent necessary. Love it. 

Whole Foods has attempted to crush anything resembling a union drive among its employees.

The greedy hand of capitalism is everywhere, even in your quinoa and chia seeds.

Fuck corporations like Whole Foods. Support the little guy/gal and buy your produce at your local farmers’ market.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Do you have your music planned out?! (For the wedding I mean)
friedarose friedarose Said:

Mostly. We’re thinking Fleet Foxes - White Winter Hymnal for a ceremony entrance song and Talking Heads - This Must Be The Place for an exit song (I grew up watching Talking Heads music videos on VHS so I’m pretty obsessed). For post-ceremony champagne and nibbles we’re going to play some mellow music, like songs from Paul Simon’s Graceland album and stuff. My dad’s a big muso so he’s picked a lot of the music for the reception.

ohlode:

What kinda party…

The little kicks?

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courierzero:

the-ummahs-blog:

be-blackstar:

jcoleknowsbest:

kropotkindersurprise:

An activist from the International Solidarity Movement blocks IDF soldiers from shooting at protesting Palestinians in Gaza, saying “You’re shooting at kids, don’t you understand that? Just pull back!“[video]

SMFH… Disgusting…

OMG She is so fucking brave. As much as I hate what he was about to do I don’t know if I have the guts to stare down a barrel. 

I would do the same thing , may Allah was her

Allah be with that woman, that is courage and compassion

courierzero:

the-ummahs-blog:

be-blackstar:

jcoleknowsbest:

kropotkindersurprise:

An activist from the International Solidarity Movement blocks IDF soldiers from shooting at protesting Palestinians in Gaza, saying “You’re shooting at kids, don’t you understand that? Just pull back!
[video]

SMFH… Disgusting…

OMG She is so fucking brave. As much as I hate what he was about to do I don’t know if I have the guts to stare down a barrel. 

I would do the same thing , may Allah was her

Allah be with that woman, that is courage and compassion

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I just made some homemade dishwasher tablets and they seem to be holding together pretty well, yayay. Instructions here. Also it’s still winter but it has been sunny all week and is currently 22°C! This gives me hope that our wedding day (only about 8 weeks away now) will be a sunny one.

November 1956

Whether it’s the extreme lassitude of early pregnancy or something more fundamental, I don’t know; but of late I’ve felt, toward poetry — both reading and writing it — nothing but boredom and indifference. Especially toward my own and that of my immediate contemporaries. When I receive a letter […] [and] someone alludes to my “career” I have a strong sense of wanting to deny all responsibility for and interest in the person who wrote it.

If there is going to be a real break in my writing life, this is as good a time as any. I have been dissatisfied with myself, my work, for a long time.

— Adrienne Rich, diary entry.

I just started reading this book by Pulitzer Prize winner Natalie Angier, and even though the prose bugs me a bit, I’ve already learned a bunch of cool things. For example:
The female fetus of a pregnant woman already contains all the eggs she will ever have. Yep, your fetus contains what will (could) one day be your grandchildren. Nature is matrilineal. A suitable metaphor for women: imagine holding a mirror up to another mirror.
The fetus is primed to become female unless disrupted by gestational exposure to androgens. If not instructed otherwise, the fetus continues to develop into a female. In a biological sense, the female is the human prototype.
While chimps are ‘patriarchal’, bonobos are an egalitarian and relatively nonviolent species because the females work together to take care of each other (bonobo feminism, haha) even though the male bonobos are physically larger.
 The clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as the penis.
Pretty fascinating.

I just started reading this book by Pulitzer Prize winner Natalie Angier, and even though the prose bugs me a bit, I’ve already learned a bunch of cool things. For example:

  • The female fetus of a pregnant woman already contains all the eggs she will ever have. Yep, your fetus contains what will (could) one day be your grandchildren. Nature is matrilineal. A suitable metaphor for women: imagine holding a mirror up to another mirror.
  • The fetus is primed to become female unless disrupted by gestational exposure to androgens. If not instructed otherwise, the fetus continues to develop into a female. In a biological sense, the female is the human prototype.
  • While chimps are ‘patriarchal’, bonobos are an egalitarian and relatively nonviolent species because the females work together to take care of each other (bonobo feminism, haha) even though the male bonobos are physically larger.
  •  The clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as the penis.

Pretty fascinating.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
prolife isn't just about abortion. it has to do with a lot of other things including the death penalty. if you believe in the death penalty you aren't prolife, you're anti-abortion.
friedarose friedarose Said:

ctrlgeek:

No. You are highly mistaken.

The pro-life position is so insane. Unequivocally defend the life of a few cells, but support the state murdering a fully formed human, even though it does nothing to actually reduce crime rates.

I cannot take seriously a pro-life position that does not respect the full spectrum of life, from conception to old age. That means accessible and affordable healthcare and housing, guys. It means not supporting wars, guns, police militarisation, and the unequal distribution of wealth. Why can’t you see the blatant inconsistency in your position?