I got inspired by green living vloggers on Youtube and thought it’d be worth trying out. We don’t always have time to go to the market near us, so we found a big organic grocery store across town and started going there on a weekly basis. We started eating all organic fruit, veg, dairy and meat right away. We didn’t want to waste money by throwing out non-organic condiments, so we just gradually replaced those as we used them up.
We don’t have a 100% organic diet. Today we ate fish and chips from a food court in a mall because we felt like eating them. We don’t care if the food we eat at restaurants or friends’ places isn’t organic. We’re not assholes. We just eat that way at home.
I stopped drinking alcohol in July because we want to try for a baby after our wedding next month and I want to establish good habits before then. I had a glass of wine a couple of weeks ago and might have a glass on my wedding day, idk, it’s not a big issue :)
My advice if you’re having trouble going 100% organic is to just buy organic dairy and meat, as the non-organic versions have antibiotics, added hormones etc. Then you could follow the 'clean fifteen' and 'dirty dozen' rule at your supermarket!
Love and growth.
A public commitment.
Accountability to our community.
Accountability to ‘the marriage’ — the symbolic third entity, if that makes sense.
A foundation for our future family.
Stability, security, good health, home, relief, responsibility, bonding, those sorts of things :-)
No. When I’m expecting I’ll probably buy Jean Liedloff’s book The Continuum Concept because I’d like to try aspects of that style of parenting, but I’m going to mostly rely on my mother and mother-in-law’s advice. My MIL is a midwife and had five children of her own, so she’s got a lot of special knowledge. I want to avoid books and guidelines as much as I can and trust the wisdom and experiences of myself and the mothers in my family.
I went to a great talk tonight given by Swedish radical feminist Kajsa Ekis Ekman. I happened to sit right near one of my feminist heroes, Sheila Jeffreys, so that was pretty cool. Kajsa talked about the similarities between the sex trade and surrogacy. She made so many great points that you should totally check out on YouTube from her presentation at the Festival of Dangerous Ideas. This is also a short clip of her from Monday night’s Q&A program discussing the Swedish model on prostitution. Afterwards the feminist audience discussed the harmful and exploitative aspects of IVF and inter-country adoption. I was sooo fascinated as I’ve been getting really into feminist bioethics lately. I’ll be adding more books like this to my collection I guess.
You’d probably love my favourite book ‘Of Woman Born’ by Adrienne Rich. She talks about motherhood as an institution as well as the real, complicated, unromanticised experience of mothering.
What you’ve pointed out is very true, the fact that it even needs to be said is because femaleness is regarded as synonymous with motherhood. Many female qualities are expressed in maternal and reproductive terms. I’m guilty of it too. We just haven’t formed a language about women that isn’t tied to them as potential or actual mothers.