Anonymous: I'm coming to visit melbourne! Any advice for shopping and eating places?

For shopping my favourite areas are the Bourke St mall, the Emporium, Chapel St and Bridge Rd. There are so many options though. Melbourne has absolutely phenomenal shopping, easily beats Sydney and is on a par with many major international cities.

My favourite spots to eat are along Southbank, South Wharf, Lygon St, Chinatown, and Fitzroy/Acland streets in St Kilda. My favourite restaurants are Akachochin, Chin Chin, Nobu, and Eureka 89.

I hope you have a nice time here. :)

Anonymous: Did you have braces as a child?

Yep, I wore braces from ages 14-16.

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July 19 2014 100,000 people in London protesting in support of Palestinians in Gaza.

July 19 2014 100,000 people in London protesting in support of Palestinians in Gaza.

Anonymous: There are so many fertility awareness methods - how did you decide which one/s are best for you? I'm about to take the plunge but it's quite daunting. Thanks for your help!

I use the method outlined by Toni Weschler in her book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I take my basal body temperature each morning and record the temperatures on a chart provided on the TCOYF website. It’s also important to monitor cervical fluid, and as an option you can check the position of your cervix, but that’s not compulsory. When I was younger I was so naive and thought you could get pregnant every single day of your cycle, haha. Now I realise women aren’t even fertile for most of the month, so as long as you figure out your fertile window, you can both avoid and achieve pregnancy relatively easily. Personally, I’m using the method to eventually achieve pregnancy. It’s really cool being able to see when estrogen or progesterone are taking over my body and the impact this has on how I feel. Last week I had a reallllly sore chest, a few pimples, and was overwhelmingly fatigued, and sure enough… my temperatures were high indicating a rush of progesterone. Once my temperatures started to decline I knew my body was about to feel some relief, and now I have way more energy. That knowledge has been so empowering. I recommend the Fertility Awareness Method to women who want to avoid hormonal birth control and would like to get to know their bodies a bit better.

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Flashback to 2 weekends ago on Wategos Beach. We all adored him.

My family.


Flashback to 2 weekends ago on Wategos Beach. We all adored him.

My family.


the pressure on first generation children of immigrants 

to prove that you are indeed proof that parents’ sacrifice was worth it

is something that many Americans will never understand

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zumurruud: I'm sure you're asked this frequently! What are some books or who are some figures that have shaped your ideas on feminism? Your ideas resound so strongly with me that I'd like to read and learn more about them.

Alllll sorts :) If you scroll down a bit you can see a response I gave a few days ago about my feminist role models (Frances Willard, Dorothy Roberts, bell hooks, Sheila Jeffreys, Adrienne Rich).

Some of the most significant feminist writings for me have been:

Toward a Feminist Theory of the State by Catharine MacKinnon

Of Woman Born: Motherhood as Experience and Institution by Adrienne Rich

Anticlimax: A Feminist Perspective on the Sexual Revolution by Sheila Jeffreys

The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm by Anne Koedt

Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center by bell hooks

My favourite feminist themes are:

The positive aspects of motherhood; the co-option of feminism by capitalism; wages for caring work; critiques of heteronormativity; critiques of intercourse as the primary sex act; critiques of gender; anti-pornography/men buying sex; critiques of big pharma with respect to birth control.

Morning walk in our hometown Botanic Gardens.

(excuse my roots, I got new highlights a few hours later)

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Saturdays without commitments are the greatest. We spent the morning at Queen Vic Market getting fruit, vegetables, seafood, bread, pasta and flowers for the week. When we got home I made some homemade multi-purpose spray and dishwashing tablets (so easy and economical). Now I’m sitting in bed listening to Fleet Foxes and flipping through some holy books out of curiosity. It sounds like the dullest day, but these are my favourites.

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heteronormativity is so weird like yesterday I was at my aunts beach house and some of her in-laws brought over this small baby. and the baby puts it’s hand on it’s brow to keep the sun out of it’s eyes and his father says “look at that! Leon is looking for girls!” Leon is eight months old I don’t think he knows what a girl is yet

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Winona Ryder in one of my favourite films of all time How to Make an American Quilt (1995)

Winona Ryder in one of my favourite films of all time How to Make an American Quilt (1995)

I thought I’d write an update about wedding plans as I get asked about it every so often in my inbox. We’ve been working on the details more recently as “the big day” is only about 3 months away now. Yaaay.

Last night we ordered our wedding rings. We both went with the good ol’ classic gold band. I picked up my wedding dress about a week ago and found some nice crystal jewellery to go with it. I still need to choose some shoes but will probably leave that until the last minute. Jon’s bespoke suit is just about ready to be brought home too. We’ve almost confirmed final catering details - my mum is handling all of that. All the equipment we’ll need (garden chairs, cocktail tables, festoon lighting, wine glasses, etc) has been booked. Photography has been organised. Oh and this weekend I’m taking my mum and sister shopping for dresses. My sister is going to be my “maid of honour” for lack of a better term, so she wants to find something pretty to wear. I’ve almost certainly left some important things out without looking at my checklist, but basically… we’re on track.

I’ve also been organising our honeymoon. I love planning holidays and like having total control over the details. Our flights from Melbourne to London were booked some time ago, but I only started researching hotels and flights about a month ago. We’ve booked our accommodation in London (Marylebone) and in Paris (Montmartre). We’re taking the Eurostar from one city to the other. We have also booked our accommodation in Positano, Italy, a town that looks like heaven on earth! We’re flying into Naples and I’m trying to work out if we should rent a car to have while we’re there, or if we should get a shuttle bus to Positano and rely on public transport. If anybody knows the Amalfi Coast well, your advice would be wonderful. I still have to find some accommodation in Berlin, but then we’ll be all sorted. :-)

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Anonymous: Do you like wearing high heels and looking sexy?

No, not at all.

In the past few years I have been gradually reclaiming my sexuality from the wide array of industries that profit from the trivialization and commodification of sex.

There are three pretty dominant and competing narratives on sex in our culture: 1) please dress and act sexy… oh but you’re a slut if you do that btw, 2) dress and act sexy so everyone knows you’re an empowered woman, 3) dress modestly and protect your body from men or whatever happens is all your fault.

I couldn’t find my place in any of these schools of thought. The first and second are based on the belief that sex is primarily a visual performance, communicated and negotiated publicly where the gaze always falls most heavily on women. The third is deeply essentialist and actually vehemently anti-male, holding men responsible for nothing as if they’re all just untamed animals.

So to answer your question more directly — I don’t make a conscious effort to try and “look” sexy because my sexuality is not an outfit. It’s pretty emotional and somewhat cerebral and I don’t feel like I can accurately imitate that through any kind of outward presentation.